Comments on: If It’s Meant To Be, It Will Happen http://blog.xtego.com/index.php/2009/02/18/if-its-meant-to-be-it-will-happen/ Because when I'm wrong, it's intentional Fri, 16 Jul 2010 17:35:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Amy http://blog.xtego.com/index.php/2009/02/18/if-its-meant-to-be-it-will-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-2887 Amy Fri, 16 Jul 2010 17:35:02 +0000 http://blog.xtego.com/?p=490#comment-2887 I was searching for some type of comfort in what happened to me last weekend. I had to sit back and watch my boyfriend marry the girl he got pregnant 4 months ago b/c her family and she pressured him. He told me the day of the wedding he was making a mistake and if it didn't work he would just get out of it b/c everyone else does but for his kid he has to try. The two of them are in no way soulmates and I lost mine and it doesn't seem fair. I know I can't ask God to break up a marriage but I know that my ex went against God's plan and it breaks my heart and I know the marriage won't last b/c neither of them feel anything for one another. I have taken myself out of the picture and I forgive him. I can only hope that if in the end all of this did indeed happen for a reason, God will use this to benefit me somehow. I was searching for some type of comfort in what happened to me last weekend. I had to sit back and watch my boyfriend marry the girl he got pregnant 4 months ago b/c her family and she pressured him. He told me the day of the wedding he was making a mistake and if it didn’t work he would just get out of it b/c everyone else does but for his kid he has to try. The two of them are in no way soulmates and I lost mine and it doesn’t seem fair. I know I can’t ask God to break up a marriage but I know that my ex went against God’s plan and it breaks my heart and I know the marriage won’t last b/c neither of them feel anything for one another. I have taken myself out of the picture and I forgive him. I can only hope that if in the end all of this did indeed happen for a reason, God will use this to benefit me somehow.

]]> By: Sandra http://blog.xtego.com/index.php/2009/02/18/if-its-meant-to-be-it-will-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-2778 Sandra Sat, 08 May 2010 19:09:28 +0000 http://blog.xtego.com/?p=490#comment-2778 Interesting post, but there is realism missing from your Bill and Sarah example. Bill did not cheat on Sarah because when he hooked up with Maggie, he technically wasn't married yet. His sin was having sex before marriage (regardless of with whom) and lying by making a false promise to Sarah in proposing and getting engaged. God's plan wasn't for Bill to marry Sarah. God's Plan was to spare Sarah of future heartbreak since Bill's inability to stay commited would have eventually leaked out. Thankfully in your example, God knowingly allows Bill to reveal and confront his supposed "infidelity" sooner rather than later. God's plan then changes, not so that Bill is now expected to marry Maggie, because honestly, what if Maggie decides she doesn't like Bill anyway? or what if under the pressure to marry and it being God's will.. Bill goes out and impregnates Gwendolin, the hot waitress at the diner. Then what sort of idiot will Maggie think of herself to be? Interesting post, but there is realism missing from your Bill and Sarah example. Bill did not cheat on Sarah because when he hooked up with Maggie, he technically wasn’t married yet. His sin was having sex before marriage (regardless of with whom) and lying by making a false promise to Sarah in proposing and getting engaged. God’s plan wasn’t for Bill to marry Sarah. God’s Plan was to spare Sarah of future heartbreak since Bill’s inability to stay commited would have eventually leaked out. Thankfully in your example, God knowingly allows Bill to reveal and confront his supposed “infidelity” sooner rather than later. God’s plan then changes, not so that Bill is now expected to marry Maggie, because honestly, what if Maggie decides she doesn’t like Bill anyway? or what if under the pressure to marry and it being God’s will.. Bill goes out and impregnates Gwendolin, the hot waitress at the diner. Then what sort of idiot will Maggie think of herself to be?

]]> By: Chelsea http://blog.xtego.com/index.php/2009/02/18/if-its-meant-to-be-it-will-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-2185 Chelsea Sat, 08 Aug 2009 14:10:28 +0000 http://blog.xtego.com/?p=490#comment-2185 I'm not sure that Curtis was saying that God changes his plan (thus, giving us power over Him) as he was saying that God will always want for us to live a Godly life. Therefore, he would still want Bill to live a Godly life from any given point in his life. So, regardless of how Bill sins, God simply wants him to live his life for God. Therefore, it's not God changing his plans, but simply God continuing to love Bill and wanting Bill to honor Him. I'm fairly certain that's the point that Curtis was trying to make. I’m not sure that Curtis was saying that God changes his plan (thus, giving us power over Him) as he was saying that God will always want for us to live a Godly life. Therefore, he would still want Bill to live a Godly life from any given point in his life. So, regardless of how Bill sins, God simply wants him to live his life for God. Therefore, it’s not God changing his plans, but simply God continuing to love Bill and wanting Bill to honor Him. I’m fairly certain that’s the point that Curtis was trying to make.

]]> By: Lucas http://blog.xtego.com/index.php/2009/02/18/if-its-meant-to-be-it-will-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-2176 Lucas Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:40:36 +0000 http://blog.xtego.com/?p=490#comment-2176 You make a lot of good points. The only hole I see is that saying we can screw up God's plan gives us power over him. If you look throughout the Bible, it is obvious that God is in control. If He is in control of our lives, we cannot do anything to screw up His plans. If He knows what we're going to say before we say it, His plan does not have to react to what is happening at the present. His perspective is different. So although we may think his plan was for Bill and Sarah to get married, he already knew that Bill was actually going to marry Maggie. Saying that God "changed" his plan in accordance to Bill's sin is giving Bill power over God's plan. It's like saying that if we get everyone in the world to stop sinning, maybe we can stop Jesus from coming the second time because He won't need to redeem us. I don't believe we have that power over God. We can never know what "is meant to be" in the first place. You can't ever say that Bill and Sarah were meant to be because we don't know. How could we ever assume we know God's Plan? You make a lot of good points. The only hole I see is that saying we can screw up God’s plan gives us power over him. If you look throughout the Bible, it is obvious that God is in control. If He is in control of our lives, we cannot do anything to screw up His plans. If He knows what we’re going to say before we say it, His plan does not have to react to what is happening at the present. His perspective is different.

So although we may think his plan was for Bill and Sarah to get married, he already knew that Bill was actually going to marry Maggie. Saying that God “changed” his plan in accordance to Bill’s sin is giving Bill power over God’s plan. It’s like saying that if we get everyone in the world to stop sinning, maybe we can stop Jesus from coming the second time because He won’t need to redeem us. I don’t believe we have that power over God. We can never know what “is meant to be” in the first place. You can’t ever say that Bill and Sarah were meant to be because we don’t know. How could we ever assume we know God’s Plan?

]]> By: Michael http://blog.xtego.com/index.php/2009/02/18/if-its-meant-to-be-it-will-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-2091 Michael Tue, 12 May 2009 00:17:09 +0000 http://blog.xtego.com/?p=490#comment-2091 Wow i've never heard it put that way before this changes my whole perspective on things. Espically how we have the opportunity to screw it up...nicely put. Wow i’ve never heard it put that way before this changes my whole perspective on things. Espically how we have the opportunity to screw it up…nicely put.

]]> By: Chelsea http://blog.xtego.com/index.php/2009/02/18/if-its-meant-to-be-it-will-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-2027 Chelsea Thu, 19 Feb 2009 16:18:02 +0000 http://blog.xtego.com/?p=490#comment-2027 Good one, hunny. Love you. Good one, hunny. Love you.

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